Anal sex positions and questions/answers.
What position should we use for anal sex?
For actual intercourse, picking a position
can be important. Many women want to be on top, to regulate
how fast penetration occurs. Other like to lie on their
stomachs, or crouch doggy-style, or to be penetrated while
lying on their sides. Choose what's best before you start.
As always, control yourself. Take your time
and use lots of lubricant. People who like anal sex say
that "too much lube is almost enough."
Listen to her-- if she tells you it starts
to hurt, back off.
Eventually, a time will come during your lovemaking where
her anus will relax enough to allow the head of your cock
to 'pop' into her.
If she is completely relaxed, that pop should
feel completely painless. Now just because you're inside
her is no reason to start pounding away like mad. Let
her body adjust.
Take your time. Eventually you will both
be ready for more.
Can I get pregnant from anal sex?
It is not technically possible to
get pregnant from anal sex; there is no way for semen
to get from the rectal tract to the vaginal tract.
However, anal sex is still not a very good method of birth
control.
Semen leaking from the anus after intercourse
may drip across the perineum (the short stretch of skin
separating vulva and anus) and cause what is known as
a 'splash' conception.
The failure rate for this is surprisingly
high! 8% of couples of who use anal sex as a method of
birth control have babies each year.
What if I don't like it?
You may find that anal sex just isn't for
you. That's fine. Nothing says that you have to indulge
in something that doesn't make you feel good.
Why would anyone want to have anal sex?
For many people, anal sex is the ultimate
taboo. Buttfucking makes it sound crude and dirty, sodomy
sounds technical. In the 1990's, anal sex has been given
the bad rap because HIV, the virus that causes AIDS, is
most easily transmitted by anal intercourse.
But some people love anal sex. Others hate
it. Others haven't tried it yet and are curious. And many
people are attracted to it precisely because it's so taboo
and mysterious.
What is analingus?
One other part of the body that some people
enjoy licking, or having licked, is the anus. The anus has
half the nerve endings in the pelvic region and many people
find touching it to be sexually arousing.
Although we haven't mentioned safer sex yet
as part of this series, we will here: the anus and rectum
carry many diseases that live quite benignly in your lower
digestive tract, but which can be harmful in your mouth
or stomach.
Performing anilingus is a very risky behavior
for a variety of bacterial infections.
Does anal sex hurt?
Anal sex should not hurt. If it hurts, you're
doing it wrong. With enough lubricant and enough patience,
it's entirely possible to enjoy anal sex as a safe and fulfilling
part of your sex life.
However, some people may never like it, and
if your lover is one of those people, respect their limits.
Don't force the idea upon them.
Can anal sex actually give pleasure?
The pleasure of anal sex is derived from many
things. Doing something "nasty" appeals to many
people, especially about sex.
Doing something different to spice up a sex
life that has become something of a bore can be part of
it. And the physical sensations available during anal sex
are uniquely different from anything else.
The rectum is lined with nerve endings, some
of which signal the brain to 'reward' you with good feelings
when stimulated. For men, the prostate gland can be a source
of powerful pleasure. And for a thrusting penis, the ring
of the anus can be a new and strong sensation to enjoy.
What do I need to have anal sex?
The most important pieces of advice anyone
can give on anal sex are: lubricants, condoms, and patience.
The most commonly available lubricant is KY-Jelly,
a greaseless, odorless substance available at most drug
stores.
Better lubricants include Astroglide, ID,
Wet, or ForePlay, some of which are available at better
drug stores, and most of which are available in some form
at adult toy stores.
Do not buy anything that is oil-based.
Make sure the lubricant you buy is rated "condom
compatible." Nothing else will do. Oil- based lubricants
such as vaseline or baby oil will destroy a condom long
before you're done having sex.
And many oil-based sub- stances will coat
the lining of the rectum, providing a haven for many potential
infections.
Do I have to use a condom?
Even if you're sure that both you and your
partner are disease- free, you should still use a condom.
The rectum is home to lots of infectious bacteria that can
cause burning and urethritis of the penis. It will also
help you clean up afterwards.
I'm worried that anal sex will be messy.
Anal sex should not be messy. Most first-timers
fear that it will be, but most people can tell when they
have to go. A condom will help with cleanup, of course,
and if you're really concerned, a commercial enema, like
Fleet, will help beforehand.
How do we prepare for anal sex?
Patience is the third and final thing you
need to make anal sex possible. Initial penetration is always
the most difficult part of anal sex-- the anus is a tight
ring of flesh at the opening of the rectum designed to control
the elimination of bodily waste.
It is partially under voluntary control, and
partially reflexive to stimulation. Your partner has to
relax, and you have to go slow to coax it into opening enough
to receive your penis.
Start with a well-lubricated finger or a slim (smaller than
your penis) dildo.
The dildo is more realistic, but your fingers
can flex and feel what they're doing inside her ass.
Slide one finger in slowly, letting her adjust
to it. Take your finger all the way out, then push it back
in again. Give her anus time to get used to this kind of
activity.
Then slide a second finger in. Consider how
big your penis is and realize that two fingers is probably
enough.
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Anal
sex stats.
So
how do you do it?
Make
sure you lubricate well.
Anal
sex positions and questions/answers.
Anal
stimulation, including intercourse, is not painful if done
properly.
Anal
sex can be enjoyed even if it has been consistently uncomfortable
in the past.
Two
muscle rings called sphincters surround the anal opening.
Each functions independently.
Anal
stimulation provides many kinds of pleasure.
Anal
stimulation can lead to orgasm.
Different
rules of hygiene apply to the vagina and rectum.
Anal
intercourse is not necessarily an act of dominance and submission.
Anal
sex can be perfectly safe, even beneficial.
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